Tuesday, July 30, 2013

People- Can't live with them, shouldn't live without them

What is life all about anyway? So many things we are supposed to do. So many people and things clamoring for our attention. We are always running and it doesn't seem like we are finishing, always cleaning but it's never clean, always working but so seldom do we get ahead.

Yesterday was one of those days. 

Relationships take a lot of work. We people have so many messes in our lives and the overlap is pretty crazy at times. The small issue that I might be trying to resolve needs to necessarily go through another person to have final resolution, but what one doesn't know is the state of that necessary person's mind at the moment of interaction.

Let's say that you and I are trying to find a solution for X and person "C", who is most capable of giving the answer, is available to give counsel. You and I are thinking that person "C" is ready and able to help with the solution only to find out that "C" has had a horrible day of their own and it seems like their own house of cards is falling. Train wreck ahead in many cases.

Is it then about the solution to the problem that has to be solved or is it about something else?

I think it's about something else; the relationship in front of you.

I am often caught between desiring to meet deadlines and goals and to push myself harder while at the same time building people and helping them be all they can be. Those are often in direct conflict with each other.

In the end the relationships in life are the things that will make or break the rest of our lives.

I have an acquaintance who is VERY wealthy. He has a huge yacht, helicopters to get to the ship and a private jet to get from point A to point B much faster. In terms of life comforts he is lacking nothing. Except the fact that for some reason his family is never with him on holidays and so more often then not he spends those days by himself.

It seems from the outside that he won in business but not in life. Would he be richer if he had all those things taken away and was able to spend the days with his kids and grandkids? I think.

Cherish the friendships. Work on them. Work through the difficulties. We are all bone-heads at times. Forgive and move along because the grudge we may be holding is weighing us down more than anyone else.

Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ's forgave you. Good words there.

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